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Friday Fun Post

Since next week I will start publicity in earnest for the release of my novel, Merlyn’s Raven, I thought I would post something completely superfluous and silly today. This is taken from a blog I love to read, just eat your cupcake, written by Maria.

Put your IPod on shuffle and then of course, each question gets a song.

Here we go.

1) Your first kiss:

Turning Tables, Adele.

The first kiss I remember was in fourth grade, when a kid named Tom used to chase me around the playground to try to kiss me. I let him catch me once. Does this count as turning tables?

2) First date:

Somebody to Love, Jefferson Airplane

I went to the park with my first boyfriend, and we walked around the lake. We also did some smooching under a bridge. I suppose I wanted somebody to love, all right, but frankly, I’m glad it didn’t turn out to be him.

3) First Day of Kindergarten:

Looks That Kill, Motley Crue

HA! This just makes me laugh. I don’t really remember my first day of kindergarten. I recall very little of that year, except that we had a bathroom in the kindergarten room and one day, my friend’s mom was our substitute teacher. But, knowing me and my nonstop chatter, I’m sure the kindergarten teacher gave me some looks that killed during our time together.

4) Relationship with parents:

I’m Counting on You, Chris DeBurgh

I’d say this is true of my parents. My mother was a wonderful lady and a good mom. My dad wasn’t around much, and when he was, he was scary when angered. Overall, though, I know my parents loved me, and I could count on them.

5) Relationship With Siblings:

Rehab, Amy Winehouse

What are you trying to say about my older brother here? He may be a perpetual partying twenty-year-old, but I love him.

6) First real love affair:

So. Central Rain, R.E.M.

My first real love affair is the one I’m still having. Since this song has a recurring line of “I’m sorry,” I really don’t think it’s appropriate for my relationship with my husband.

7) First Break-Up:

Bust Your Window, GLEE cast

Well, it wasn’t a very nice break-up. He just stopped calling me, and I never found out what happened. I also heard later from a friend who went to school with him that he was spreading rumors about me as a conquest, which really hacked me off. So yes, I suppose I was mad—but not mad enough to bust the windows of his car.

8) BFF song:

Toast, Tori Amos

This is a rather sad song, written for Tori’s brother who passed away, so it doesn’t seem appropriate for my best friend, Melissa. I did, however, raise a toast to her at her wedding, which I think went very well. And I meant every single sappy, sloppy word of it.

9) Partner song:

The Prisoner, Howard Jones

No, no, absolutely not. My husband and I treat each other with the utmost respect and love, and I know neither of us feels trapped in our relationship.

10) Your relationship with your child(ren): 

Moon Over Bourbon Street, Sting

Unless my children have turned into vampires and I don’t know about it, I can’t imagine a less appropriate song.

11) Song about fights with your partner/husband/wife/whomever:

I’m Slowly Turning Into You, The White Stripes

Hmmm…Well, my husband and I are both passive-aggressive fighters, I think, so we really do mirror each other in our fighting techniques. That said, we rarely fight. Maybe we have already turned into the other person—after twenty-seven years together, we know each other pretty damn well.

12) Song about your career:

Bulletproof Heart, My Chemical Romance

Interesting song title. I’d say that in my work as a medium and as a writer, I do have to have a pretty tough skin. People can be extremely critical, and you must learn that you can’t please everyone. And to be both a writer and a medium, you have to expose your heart and allow your emotions to flow, so having a bulletproof one is probably wise.

13) How you feel about your co-workers:

Witch Hunt, Rush

LOL! Well, I really only have one co-worker, my office partner, Joanne, who is also a medium and a life coach. I don’t know if she sometimes feels as if she’s the quarry in a witch hunt, but I do occasionally.

14) How you feel right now:

Almost Rosey, Tori Amos

I’d say that’s almost right, considering my name.

15) Family vacations when you were a kid:

Forget Me Not, The Civil Wars

I look back on family vacations to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina quite fondly. I hope I won’t forget those times.

16) First sexual experience:

Television Rules the Nation, Daft Punk

Um…no. Just…no. And you’re not getting any other explanation than that.

17) What’s your future look like?

Norwegian Wood (This Bird Has Flown), The Beatles

I’m not sure what to make of this answer. Perhaps I’ll fly to Norway. Perhaps it’s all about freedom. Or sleeping in a bathtub. Who really knows?

18) What your family was like growing up:

Winter, Tori Amos

Interesting. This is one of my favorite Tori songs, and it’s the one I associate most with my father. The song mentions, “I wanted you to be proud of me.” Those words, “I’m proud of you,” were ones I desperately wanted to hear from my dad but didn’t until I was in my thirties. And yes, that does make me sad.

19) What your own family is like now:

Someone Like You, Adele

Well, I do see my husband and myself in our children. And if anything ever happened to my husband, I would have to find someone very like him to even consider another relationship. Once you’ve had it so good, you never want to go backwards.

20) What will you be like in your old age:

Tear in Your Hand, Tori Amos

Oh, I hope not! I don’t want to be a big baby or a crier when I am old. I want to rejoice and remember all the great things about my life. I hope I can remain positive until my last breath, no matter what happens.

21) What your partner thought when you first met:

Die Hard the Hunter, Def Leppard

I don’t think my husband knew I was even interested in him when we first met. He actually considered asking out another girl who worked with us, until she was bitchy to him and he saw what she was really like. But I suppose I did pursue him a bit more than he pursued me.

22) What you thought when you first met your partner:

Miracle Drug, U2

Well, I certainly thought my husband was handsome the first time I saw him. But I don’t think I considered him a miracle drug.

23) What your child(ren) thinks of you as a parent:

Vertigo, U2

Never let them know what you’re really thinking. Make their heads spin! That’s my motto for good parenting!

24) What your co-workers think of you:

Hungry Like the Wolf, Duran Duran

Great. Everyone I work with thinks I eat too much. Does this blog make me look fat?

25) What your neighbors think of you:

Gone Away, The Offspring

LOL! This is probably very true. I hate to say it, but we’re not especially friendly with any of our neighbors. We wave and exchange pleasantries, but that’s about it. They probably think we’re very standoffish.

26) What your best friend thinks of you:

Bookends, Simon and Garfunkel

Awww….this makes me a little misty over Missy. 🙂  I could certainly see us sitting on a bench together as old ladies, cackling away. I hope she sees that, too.

27) What your family thinks of you:

I Am An Animal, Pete Townshend

Really? I never knew! And all this time, I thought I was being so loving and polite!

28) What your partner felt the first time you kissed:

White Russian, Marillion

Well, it was in my plan all along to make him drunk on my kisses. Looks like it worked.  🙂

Know Your Enemy

I grew up listening to heavy metal music. My older brother cranked up the likes of Led Zeppelin, KISS, Black Sabbath, and, his favorite, AC/DC on his stereo every day after school. I couldn’t help but hear the screaming voices and wailing guitars through the thin walls of our small, ranch-style house. I recall stealing a page of stickers from his “Rock and Roll Over” album and plastering Gene Simmons’ cartoon tongue on my folder containing graded papers. My brother hit the roof and complained to my mother, who sighed and said, “I don’t know how either of you can like those strange men!”


Rock-and-roll has always been the music of rebels and anarchy. It often surprises people that know me as a minister when I reveal my deep love and connection to hard, driving, loud, and occasionally-obscene music. Maybe it’s my Pagan roots responding to those thrashing drums. Perhaps it’s my born-on-the-4th-of-July, independence-craving nature identifying with kindred souls singing passionately about freedom. Or maybe it’s my wicked past lives as a warrior and a pirate surging to the fore, my soul longing to once again kick someone’s behind.

See? Just talking about it ignites my renegade spirit.

So, on Tuesday, I bought the new Green Day album, “21st Century Breakdown.” 


As I imagined, I love it. It’s an album filled with thrashing guitars, pounding drums, great vocals, and angst-ridden, angry sentiments. The first single, called “Know Your Enemy,” features these lyrics:

“Silence is the enemy against your urgency, so rally up the demons of your soul, the insurgency will rise when the blood’s been sacrificed, don’t be blinded by the lies in your eyes.”

Interesting. As a metaphysical person, silence is supposed to be something I treasure and seek. So why do I need so much noise like this in my life?

I certainly think silence has its place, and it plays an important role in our development as spiritual beings. But I believe anger has value, too. The darker sides of ourselves are places we sometimes fear to go. Some metaphysicians seem to pretend that they never get angry, that they never have an unkind thought about someone else, that their lives are always filled with sunshine, roses, and Vivaldi playing in the background. But we all have our darker moments, our times of rolling thunderclouds, choking vines, and Anthrax on the iPod. Should we deny these feelings and suppress them? I don’t think so. We need to allow them out into the light; we need to let them writhe around, cursing and spitting, until they wear themselves out. And then maybe we can put them away for awhile until they need attention again.

“Know Your Enemy.” For many years, I suppressed my emotions. When I was a girl, my father would explode in anger, and he scared me so badly with those outbursts that I learned early not to react to anything with such force.  I got so good at suppressing my emotions that I believed I never got angry or upset about anything. This was, of course, a fallacy. I simply didn’t wish to acknowledge those feelings because they were dark and scary, and I never wanted anyone to see me lose control. To me, emotions were the enemy, and I was going to win against them no matter what. 

Over the last 10 years or so, I’ve learned a lot about myself, and I’ve learned to stop suppressing my emotions. It hasn’t been an easy journey, and I’m still afraid sometimes to let people see my true feelings. But I also recognize how unhealthy suppressing my emotions has been, not just from a physical standpoint (stress and terrible discomfort in my shoulders, neck, and arms) but also from a spiritual perspective. Investigating the roots of anger issues can only help us to grow as spiritual beings. I realized not too long ago how angry I was at my father for being so angry all the time when I was a girl. I was seething inside because I felt he hadn’t supported me as a parent should a child–he’d taken no interest in my passions and rarely made appearances at school functions, making me feel unloved and unappreciated. What I realize now, however, is that he was working so hard to make a living that he neglected everything else in his life–and I believe this made him into an angry guy. Who wouldn’t be pissed off that they always had to miss their kids’ achievements? When I was able to step back and see this about my dad, my anger with him melted away. I could see his perspective through spiritual eyes, and I was able to forgive his faults and find compassion for him. I have every confidence that this experience helped me to grow as a spiritual being, and it also reinforced for me as a mother the importance of putting my family and their needs first in my life.

Anger isn’t a pretty emotion. It can be scary and uncomfortable. But I think it’s a necessary part of our experience as a human being. I don’t think we should ignore it when it rears its head, when it surges like a wave inside of us. We can process through it: punch a pillow, scream in the car or in an empty room, write furiously about what upsets us, listen to Green Day at ear-bleeding levels. 

And then, we can breathe in something peaceful, something calming–the intention of releasing that anger and achieving balance again. It may take some work to get through every angry moment, or some of our old angry baggage that we’ve stuffed in the back of a closet and ignored. But we’ll only be better on every level if we can learn to look at it for what it is: an expression of our humanity, the shadow side of ourselves, a necessary part that balances us and helps us to grow.

Be well and at peace, friends, even with the darker side of you. It makes you a complete human being. xo

A Musical Interlude

Greetings, everyone! I’m back from a few days away with my family, and I’m thrilled to tell you a bit about our trip. We visited the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland, Ohio, pictured here:


My husband and I have visited the Hall of Fame twice before, but this was our first time taking our twin sons, age 13. In the last year, they’ve become more interested in popular music, and my husband, a musician and one-time rock band member, couldn’t have been keener to take them to the Mecca of rock and roll. We had a tremendous time, and I was quite amazed, as I’ve been in the past, at the dedication to their work that these artists display. This time, the museum featured a special exhibit on Bruce Springsteen. I’ve never been a big Springsteen fan; although we own a couple of his albums and I enjoy his music, he’s not a favorite. I was terribly impressed, though, to see the exhibit, especially the pages and pages and pages of his handwritten song lyrics. I couldn’t help comparing the songwriting process to my own as an author and admiring Springsteen’s dedication to capturing just the right words to express himself musically. Being there also proved to me, once again, how important music is to so many people, and how it binds us together in a common experience.

So, in honor of our trip to the Hall of Fame, I thought it would be fun to create a meme of sorts. I love memes–I enjoy expressing my own opinion, I suppose, and it’s hard for me not to complete one on Facebook or LiveJournal when someone else posts it. I thought I’d post a list of the Hall of Fame performance inductees, along with my favorite song by that artist, and encourage readers to lift the list, post it to their own LJ, blog, Facebook page, etc, with their own favorite songs listed. Be warned: the list of Hall of Fame inductees is terribly long, and although I’m sure all of them are terrifically talented, I only listed the artists whose work I knew. My criteria: if I knew one of their songs, I listed them. So I did leave some of the inductees out–my apologies to those folks, but I had to make a limit somewhere. If you’d like to see the entire list of inductees, you can visit the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame’s list here:

Anyway, on to my list!

1986 Inductees

Buddy Holly–“Peggy Sue”

Chuck Berry–“Johnny B. Goode”

Elvis Presley–“Jailhouse Rock”

James Brown– I have to say here, I’ve never been a fan of James Brown (but always did love Eddie Murphy’s impersonation on SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE), but I can acknowledge his influence even if I don’t like him– “I Feel Good”

Jerry Lee Lewis–although my uncle was a big fan of Jerry Lee and played his version of “Chantilly Lace” over and over again, I prefer “Great Balls of Fire.” Sorry, Uncle Jim. 

Little Richard–“Tutti Frutti”

Ray Charles–“Georgia on My Mind”

The Everly Brothers–“Wake Up Little Susie” (Scandalous song at the time, I’m sure!)

1987 Inductees

Aretha Franklin–“Respect”

B. B. King–“The Thrill is Gone”

Roy Orbison–“Pretty Woman”

Smokey Robinson–“The Tears of a Clown” 

1988 Inductees

Bob Dylan–I know a lot of people consider Dylan to be a musical genius, but I’m just not that into him. Still–“A Hard Rain’s Gonna Fall”

The Beach Boys–As a girl, I listened to ENDLESS SUMMER countless times. Funny, but I don’t think “Barbara Ann” was on there.

The Beatles–Now, here is genius, at least to me. Hard to choose just one, but I’d have to go with “Hey, Jude.”

The Supremes–“Stop! In the Name of Love”

1989 Inductees

Otis Redding–“(Sittin’ on) The Dock of the Bay”

Stevie Wonder–“Superstition”

The Rolling Stones–Another band I’ve never gotten into, although I know they have legions of fans. I do like “Paint it Black.”

1990 Inductees

Simon and Garfunkel–So many good songs. I’d have to go with “The Sounds of Silence.” Interesting–until I looked it up to check, I thought it was “The SOUND of Silence.” 

The Kinks–“Lola”

The Who–One of my favorite bands, so it’s very hard to choose just one song. But it will have to be “Behind Blue Eyes.”

1991 Inductees

Ike and Tina Turner–I think Tina Turner is one brave, strong, enduring lady. And their version of “Proud Mary” never fails to knock me out, especially when you see the old clips of Tina dancing. 

The Byrds–another band I know next-to-nothing about, but I like “So You Want to be a Rock-n-Roll Star.”

1992 Inductees

Johnny Cash–ah, the Man in Black. I like several of his songs quite a bit, but I’d have to go with “Ring of Fire.”

The Jimi Hendrix Experience–my husband introduced me to Jimi, and honestly, it took a long while for him to grow on me. He has, however, and now I really like his stuff. “Fire” is my favorite.

The Yardbirds–another band I know very little about, except that several great guitarists started out there. “For Your Love” would have to be my favorite of theirs.

1993 Inductees

Cream–“White Room”

Creedence Clearwater Revival–“Bad Moon Rising”

The Doors–“Love Her Madly”

Van Morrison–“Moondance”

1994 Inductees

Bob Marley–“I Shot the Sheriff”

Elton John–“Don’t Let the Sun Go Down on Me”

John Lennon–“Imagine”

Rod Stewart–“Hot Legs.” No, just kidding. I’m not a big Rod Steward fan, but I actually like “Fascination.”

 The Animals–“We Gotta Get Out of This Place”

The Band–“The Night They Drove Old Dixie Down”

The Grateful Dead–I know several people who are big Dead Heads, but I can’t count myself among them. This is why I’d have to go to their 80’s song “Touch of Gray.”

1995 Inductees

Frank Zappa–Oh, he’s a strange guy, and so is his music. I can’t honestly say I know any of his songs…but I think he was a cool dude.

Janis Joplin–“Piece of My Heart”

Led Zepplin–another band it’s taken me years to embrace, but I do like most of their stuff now. “The Immigrant Song” is still my favorite.

Martha and the Vandellas–“Dancing in the Street.” Probably also because my mother loved this song…even Van Halen’s version of it!

Neil Young–“The Needle and the Damage Done”

The Allman Brothers Band–another band I’m not terribly fond of, but I suppose “Ramblin’ Man” is an OK tune.

1996 Inductees

David Bowie–such an inventive person, and a great performer, even though I don’t know much of his music. I really like “Modern Love,” though.

Gladys Knight and the Pips–I used to listen to “Midnight Train to Georgia” and sing along when I was a girl. It still stands out in my mind as a great song.

Jefferson Airplane–How much do I love Grace Slick’s voice? She’s the bomb. “Somebody to Love” rocks.

Pink Floyd–I was obsessed with THE WALL in college. Depressed much? Still, “Comfortably Numb” is a kick-ass song.

The Velvet Underground–“Walk on the Wild Side”

1997 Inductees

Crosby Stills and Nash–“Teach Your Children”

Joni Mitchell–another artist I don’t know much about, but I like “Big Yellow Taxi.”

Parliament-Funkadelic–my good friend Marilyn is a big fan of theirs. When we were studying for our tests back in massage therapy school, she’d whip out a P-Funk album when we took a break, and we’d all dance around like maniacs. “Give Up the Funk (Tear the Roof Off the Sucker)” is a great, fun song.

The Bee Gees–not a fan of disco at all, but “How Deep is Your Love” is a tolerable song.

The Jackson Five–way before Michael went off the deep end, he was very cute. Case in point: “ABC.”

1998 Inductees

Fleetwood Mac–“The Chain”

Santana–I know Santana hit in the 70’s, but I prefer his later stuff. “Smooth” is one of the sexiest songs ever recorded, in my book.

The Eagles–“Desperado”

The Mamas and The Papas–“California Dreamin'”

1999 Inductees

Billy Joel–I have been a Billy Joel fan forever, it seems. His was the first rock concert I ever saw. It’s extremely hard to choose just one of his songs…but I’d have to go with “Only the Good Die Young.”

Bruce Springsteen–“Born to Run”

Dusty Springfield–“Son of a Preacher Man”

Paul McCartney–As a solo artist, I don’t know a lot of McCartney. I was trying to figure out if this included his stint with Wings, so I’ll vote it does and choose “Live and Let Die.”

2000 Inductees

Bonnie Raitt–I’m a little embarrassed to admit I know squat about Bonnie Raitt. I do, however, like “Something To Talk About.”

Earth, Wind, and Fire–“September”

Eric Clapton–As a solo artist, I’d have to pick “Wonderful Tonight.”

James Taylor–“Sweet Baby James”

2001 Inductees

Aerosmith–“Janie’s Got a Gun”

Michael Jackson–It has to be “Thriller.” How can anyone forget that video and that dance?

Paul Simon–“Late in the Evening”

Queen–“Crazy Little Thing Called Love”

Ritchie Valens–“La Bamba”

Steely Dan–“Josie”

2002 Inductees

Ramones–Another group I only appreciate because of my husband’s influence. “I Wanna Be Sedated” always cracks me up.

Isaac Hayes–I’m sure the man made other music, but I’d have to go with “Shaft.” Can you dig it?

Talking Heads–“Psycho Killer”

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers–“Mary Jane’s Last Dance”

2003 Inductees

AC/DC–thanks to my older brother, I grew up listening to AC/DC. “Hell’s Bells” is my favorite of theirs.

Elvis Costello and the Attractions–Apparently, my favorite song of theirs wasn’t written by Elvis Costello, but by Nick Lowe. Oh well, it’s still “(What’s So Funny ‘Bout) Peace Love and Understanding?”

Righteous Brothers–“You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”

The Clash–Not a big fan, but I can tolerate “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

The Police–“The Bed’s Too Big Without You”

2004 Inductees

Bob Seger–“Turn the Page”

George Harrison–“All Those Years Ago”

Jackson Browne–another artist I’m not fond of, but I’d have to go with “Doctor My Eyes.”

Prince–“Let’s Go Crazy”

ZZ Top–“Sharp Dressed Man”

Traffic–Hmmm….it seems I don’t know anything about Traffic and can think of no songs of theirs. Sorry, guys.

2005 Inductees

The Pretenders–ask my husband and he’ll tell you how much I like the Pretenders. (Oh, that’s right…sarcasm doesn’t come through in a written post, does it?) But I can listen to “Back on the Chain Gang.”

U2–Although I like a lot of new U2, I still tend to love their older stuff more. “Sunday Bloody Sunday” is a long-time favorite.

2006 Inductees

Black Sabbath–Sign of the Beast! I can still remember being scandalized by my brother’s copy of “Heaven and Hell,” whose cover depicted angels sitting around smoking cigarettes and playing cards. But growing up with heavy metal, I do like a lot of Sabbath songs. “Paranoid” is tops on my list.

Blondie–Um…yuck. Not a Blondie fan, so it’s hard to pick a song. I’d have to go with “Rapture.”

Lynyrd Skynyrd–Again, not a fan, but if pressed, I could listen to “Sweet Home Alabama.”

Sex Pistols–OK, this is turning out to be a challenging year for me! I don’t like the Sex Pistols because of their attitude (and yes, I get that that’s the whole thing!) “God Save the Queen” is probably the only song of theirs I even know.

2007 Inductees

Patti Smith–I feel like I should know more Patti Smith, but I can only go with “Because the Night.”

R.E.M–Love these guys, and I know a lot of their stuff. Still, “Losing My Religion” really resonates for me. Commercial, yes, but my favorite.

Van Halen–“Hot for Teacher”

2008 Inductees

John Mellencamp–“Rain on the Scarecrow” 

Madonna–I feel stupid writing this, but “Papa Don’t Preach” has always been my favorite. Don’t laugh–I grew up a Catholic girl fearing this very situation!

2009 Inductees

Jeff Beck–“Guitar Shop”

Metallica–“”Enter Sandman”

Well, that was very fun! If you choose to play, please DON’T post your responses in my comments (blog overload!), but do post a link to your own blog so I can check out your answers.

Until next time…”Keep On Rockin’ in the Free World!”


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