I received an email the other day from a desperate person.
I get a great deal of email from people who have read my books and who stop by my website. Most of these folks are interested in my work as a clairvoyant medium, and they often write with questions about the afterlife, their passed over loved ones, etc. If these are general questions, I do try to answer each email personally with something that will prove helpful. After all, the person took the time to write to me–the least I can do is try to honor them by responding in some way. If I don’t know the answer to a question, I’ll tell them that and then try to point them in a beneficial direction. The only types of questions I won’t answer in unsolicited emails are those that are personal questions about the sender’s life. I gently tell these folks that I am a professional reader and that I’m happy to give them a reading if they’d like to go to my website and order one. Most of the time, I never hear from them again. More than likely, they’re just interested in receiving a free reading, and that’s fine. I do my share of work pro bono throughout the year, so I don’t feel guilty telling folks that they need to pay for my services.
But this particular email was different. Without going into too many specific details (which would be a breech of trust), the sender wrote that s/he had seen me in the past for a reading, and I had predicted a happy future for her/his love life. The sender currently has a committed partner and was quite content in the relationship. However, s/he recently saw another psychic, and that psychic had nothing but bad things to say about the sender’s relationship and partner. The psychic predicted that the sender would not be able to work out any issues and that the relationship was basically doomed to fail.
It was obvious from the sender’s email that this new reading of gloom and doom for her/his relationship had caused nothing but friction and problems in the relationship. The sender was now thrown completely into doubt about her/his ability to judge her/his partner, and s/he kept asking the partner to demonstrate love, affection, and commitment. Even though the partner was apparently willing to do this, the sender could not stop thinking about the other psychic’s reading and could not pull out of the doubt and fear it had created. The reading upset the sender so much that s/he wrote to me asking if I would look at the relationship again to “make sure” I saw what I saw in my reading for her/him.
This email made me terribly sad. And the more I thought about it, the more I realized I needed to write a blog post and get my feelings off my chest.
Here’s the big message: Please, please, please, DON’T ALLOW YOUR HAPPINESS OR UNHAPPINESS IN LIFE TO HINGE ON ANYTHING A PSYCHIC TELLS YOU. You alone are in control of your life and, therefore, your happiness. Just because a psychic sees something in the energy around you or in your future does NOT mean this is set in stone and will undoubtedly come to pass. It is an ENERGY, which means it can be manipulated in a different way. The manipulation of energy is called MAGICK. And whether you know it or not, you exercise magick every day, simply by exercising your FREE WILL. YOU ARE ALWAYS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ENERGY YOU CREATE. This is what free will and personal responsibility are all about. If you don’t like the energy in your life, CHANGE IT. This is well within your power, and you CAN do this.
There is nothing that upsets me more than hearing about (or receiving) a reading that is all about the negative stuff in someone’s life. Yes, we all have challenges. Yes, we all hit roadblocks, fail, become discouraged, etc. It is a part of life, and we need to accept that sometimes, we’re not going to be successful. But we also need to realize that we are co-creators with the Divine, and we CAN make changes when we need them in our lives. Some problems seem so big we might not be able to see how to make those changes. But sometimes, just a slight alteration in our focus or our thoughts can help us to get past a block so that we CAN see where we need to go. Baby steps may be tiny, but they can still be pointed in a good direction to help us walk a better road.
It is obvious to me that in the case of the email sender, s/he is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. S/he is falling into the following thought pattern: “The psychic said my relationship would fail. She said my partner was cheating/manipulating me/doesn’t really love me.” And so this negative thought energy builds around the sender and creates a harsh auric field. This lower vibration starts to attract more lower energy to the sender, and the negativity continues to build from there. Because s/he is suspicious of the partner, friction develops where there was none before, and before long, the relationship is in shambles. And all because of something said in a reading!
If you are dealing with problems in a relationship with someone else, start first with yourself. Do you need to change your attitude? Are your own thoughts and issues clouding your judgement? Try looking at issues from the other person’s standpoint and see if you can understand her or his side of the argument. If you’re still not happy, talk to the other person. Be honest and open. If the other person loves you, s/he will make a concerted effort to work on her or himself and the relationship with you so you both can be happy. If you are still in turmoil, go to a COUNSELOR, not a psychic. A counselor is educated in how to help you address each other and your relationship issues. Make a commitment to work on the relationship.
Psychics and mediums can help you, and we can see what your energy is like right now and into the future. But please remember these words that are printed on a sign I have in my office lobby (courtesy of my dear office mate, Joanne):
THE BEST WAY TO PREDICT YOUR FUTURE IS TO CREATE IT.
Some things may not change. You may lose your house, your job, your marriage, your 401(k). If this is the energy around you, and there is a significant lesson for you to learn in this loss, it may still happen. But you can change your attitude and do as much as you can to make the energy softer, easier, and less debilitating if you have to go through it. This is why magick is beneficial, and why it brings you peace of mind even in the midst of turmoil.
Please remember: most psychics and mediums are professionals, trained to give the best messages they can with the most accuracy possible. And you STILL have the power to change what is predicted, simply by making other choices and exercising your free will.
I send you all love, joy, and peace.