Not too long ago, I was visiting one of my favorite metaphysical shops. This is a store that features Tarot and oracle cards, an extensive book selection, crystals, jewelry, incense, herbal teas–all the stuff that we New Age folks love. I enjoy going there and browsing for awhile, losing myself in the relaxing music wafting from the stereo and the sense of peace that permeates the place.
This store also offers readings, and the space their readers occupy is in a corner of the front room. The reader-of-the-day sits at a small cafe table across from her client. In other words, if you’re in the shop, you’re going to hear the reading, no matter how quietly the reader and the client speak. It just can’t be helped. In my opinion, this isn’t an ideal situation, but hey: I’ve done readings at noisy bars, New Year’s Eve parties, and on the street. This set-up can’t be that much worse.
As I was browsing, the bell above the front door jingled, and two ladies walked into the shop. They inquired at the front counter about getting a reading, and my friend, one of the store’s proprietors, went to fetch the reader from a back room. When the reader came out and greeted the ladies, one said immediately, “I want to get a reading, but I don’t want to hear anything bad.”
I almost burst out laughing from my place by the greeting cards.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this very same statement from one of my clients when she first arrives at my office or at my table at a psychic fair. And I, being the closet smart-ass that I am, want to respond, “Well, who does?” But then, the compassionate angel-on-my-shoulder overrides her devilish counterpart, and I smile lovingly, knowing another teaching moment has been presented to me.
No one wants to hear bad news. I get that. It’s never easy to confront issues like job loss, financial woes, turbulence with your children, collapsing relationships, sexual affairs, health problems, and other similar matters. If I had my way, I’d be walking around in a blissful bubble of contentment for the rest of my life. But let’s be realistic: life just isn’t like that. It’s more like a roller-coaster, with hills and valleys and helixes that spin you until you’re dizzy and sick. Some of us like roller coasters; some of us don’t. But whether we like it or not, we got on this ride in the first place, so we may as well learn some coping strategies to deal with the stretches of track that are the scariest.
One thing I recommend to my clients is that they stop seeing events and circumstances in their lives as “bad.” Cancel this negative thinking! I prefer to call these types of things “challenges.” A challenge is something that can be overcome. A challenge is something that may test our strength, our endurance, and shake our sense of purpose, but it is something that we can confront and surmount. And, most importantly, we learn something significant from the challenges we face. When we can focus on the moment-to-moment progression through the challenge and then examine it after it’s over, we begin to understand the lesson that we needed to learn from that experience. And this is the most valuable part of our lives as spiritual beings.
A reading can help us to understand what challenges we may need to face as we continue on our path. Yes, we may lose our job, or we may experience a divorce. But this doesn’t have to be the end of our world! I realize that when we are in the middle of this type of situation, it is extremely difficult to believe that things will ever get better. I believe it helps to remember that everything in life is cyclical. Observation of nature tells us that the seasons change; the natural world undergoes cycles of energy, moving from winter to spring, then to summer and fall, and back again to winter. Why should we, natural beings ourselves, be any different? If you feel that the break-up of your relationship is like wintertime–cold and lonely and stark–remember that spring will come. It has to; it’s part of the natural cycle of energy. And you, too, will emerge from this challenge, once again feeling warm and sunny. When we focus on these positive aspects, and remember to look for the lessons in our challenges, it can really change our perspectives on our lives and the events within them.
And remember, too, that a reading is not set in stone. You always have the power to change your circumstances. A reading can gauge the energies around you and into the future, but you can make choices to change the energy yourself. If a job loss seems imminent, take some initiative and get your resume in order now so that you will feel more productive and powerful when the hammer falls. This will help you to keep a more positive attitude as you look for work. A reading gives you a heads-up about possible futures, but you always have the ability to create a new future. And you certainly have the ability to change your reactions and your attitudes!
So get a reading, but go in with an open and loving attitude. Don’t be afraid to hear challenging things, knowing that these events and issues will provide great opportunities for growth and spiritual perspective for you.
I wish you lots of success!