Category: Life

A WIP and the ULE

For the last two weeks, I’ve been working on my new writing project every spare moment I get. The work-in-progress (WIP–and, dare I say, novel-to-be?) is another fantasy romance inspired by Arthurian legend. What is it with me and this theme? Anyway, it’s always exciting when the words want to flow. Too bad life, and other responsibilities, get in the way.

To that end, I wanted to let everyone know that I’ll be at the Universal Light Expo in Columbus, Ohio this Saturday, October 13 and Sunday, October 14. I will be in booth 713, where I will be giving private readings and selling all of my books. This expo is enormous, and there are tons of great people, products, lectures, and energy for everyone to enjoy. If you’re in the Columbus area, stop by and spend some time with us. On Sunday at 11 am, you can even come and see me demonstrating mediumship with several other wonderful light workers.

These expos, while fun and exciting, always wear me out. But I hope to get back to writing bright and early on Monday!

Blessings to all!

Image above copyright Eve Sakmar Sullivan

Responsibility in Readings and Life

I received an email the other day from a desperate person.

I get a great deal of email from people who have read my books and who stop by my website. Most of these folks are interested in my work as a clairvoyant medium, and they often write with questions about the afterlife, their passed over loved ones, etc. If these are general questions, I do try to answer each email personally with something that will prove helpful. After all, the person took the time to write to me–the least I can do is try to honor them by responding in some way. If I don’t know the answer to a question, I’ll tell them that and then try to point them in a beneficial direction. The only types of questions I won’t answer in unsolicited emails are those that are personal questions about the sender’s life. I gently tell these folks that I am a professional reader and that I’m happy to give them a reading if they’d like to go to my website and order one. Most of the time, I never hear from them again. More than likely, they’re just interested in receiving a free reading, and that’s fine. I do my share of work pro bono throughout the year, so I don’t feel guilty telling folks that they need to pay for my services.

But this particular email was different. Without going into too many specific details (which would be a breech of trust), the sender wrote that s/he had seen me in the past for a reading, and I had predicted a happy future for her/his love life. The sender currently has a committed partner and was quite content in the relationship. However, s/he recently saw another psychic, and that psychic had nothing but bad things to say about the sender’s relationship and partner. The psychic predicted that the sender would not be able to work out any issues and that the relationship was basically doomed to fail.

It was obvious from the sender’s email that this new reading of gloom and doom for her/his relationship had caused nothing but friction and problems in the relationship. The sender was now thrown completely into doubt about her/his ability to judge her/his partner, and s/he kept asking the partner to demonstrate love, affection, and commitment. Even though the partner was apparently willing to do this, the sender could not stop thinking about the other psychic’s reading and could not pull out of the doubt and fear it had created. The reading upset the sender so much that s/he wrote to me asking if I would look at the relationship again to “make sure” I saw what I saw in my reading for her/him.

This email made me terribly sad. And the more I thought about it, the more I realized I needed to write a blog post and get my feelings off my chest.

Here’s the big message: Please, please, please, DON’T ALLOW YOUR HAPPINESS OR UNHAPPINESS IN LIFE TO HINGE ON ANYTHING A PSYCHIC TELLS YOU. You alone are in control of your life and, therefore, your happiness. Just because a psychic sees something in the energy around you or in your future does NOT mean this is set in stone and will undoubtedly come to pass. It is an ENERGY, which means it can be manipulated in a different way. The manipulation of energy is called MAGICK. And whether you know it or not, you exercise magick every day, simply by exercising your FREE WILL. YOU ARE ALWAYS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ENERGY YOU CREATE. This is what free will and personal responsibility are all about. If you don’t like the energy in your life, CHANGE IT. This is well within your power, and you CAN do this.

There is nothing that upsets me more than hearing about (or receiving) a reading that is all about the negative stuff in someone’s life. Yes, we all have challenges. Yes, we all hit roadblocks, fail, become discouraged, etc. It is a part of life, and we need to accept that sometimes, we’re not going to be successful. But we also need to realize that we are co-creators with the Divine, and we CAN make changes when we need them in our lives. Some problems seem so big we might not be able to see how to make those changes. But sometimes, just a slight alteration in our focus or our thoughts can help us to get past a block so that we CAN see where we need to go. Baby steps may be tiny, but they can still be pointed in a good direction to help us walk a better road.

It is obvious to me that in the case of the email sender, s/he is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. S/he is falling into the following thought pattern: “The psychic said my relationship would fail. She said my partner was cheating/manipulating me/doesn’t really love me.” And so this negative thought energy builds around the sender and creates a harsh auric field. This lower vibration starts to attract more lower energy to the sender, and the negativity continues to build from there. Because s/he is suspicious of the partner, friction develops where there was none before, and before long, the relationship is in shambles. And all because of something said in a reading!

If you are dealing with problems in a relationship with someone else, start first with yourself. Do you need to change your attitude? Are your own thoughts and issues clouding your judgement? Try looking at issues from the other person’s standpoint and see if you can understand her or his side of the argument. If you’re still not happy, talk to the other person. Be honest and open. If the other person loves you, s/he will make a concerted effort to work on her or himself and the relationship with you so you both can be happy. If you are still in turmoil, go to a COUNSELOR, not a psychic. A counselor is educated in how to help you address each other and your relationship issues. Make a commitment to work on the relationship.

Psychics and mediums can help you, and we can see what your energy is like right now and into the future. But please remember these words that are printed on a sign I have in my office lobby (courtesy of my dear office mate, Joanne):

THE BEST WAY TO PREDICT YOUR FUTURE IS TO CREATE IT.

Some things may not change. You may lose your house, your job, your marriage, your 401(k). If this is the energy around you, and there is a significant lesson for you to learn in this loss, it may still happen. But you can change your attitude and do as much as you can to make the energy softer, easier, and less debilitating if you have to go through it. This is why magick is beneficial, and why it brings you peace of mind even in the midst of turmoil.

Please remember: most psychics and mediums are professionals, trained to give the best messages they can with the most accuracy possible. And you STILL have the power to change what is predicted, simply by making other choices and exercising your free will.

I send you all love, joy, and peace.

 

Summer So Far

Ye gods! I just realized that the last time I posted on my blog was MOTHER’S DAY WEEKEND!

I am a blog loser.

Well, I won’t beat myself up too much. It’s been a busy summer. I hit the ground running in June when my boys wrapped up their school year, and I traveled to Pennsylvania to teach a Tarot workshop for my good friend Gloria at her beautiful Spirit Education Center and Sanctuary. When I came home, I was ready to party with my theatre friends to celebrate the end of another successful community theatre season here in Cincinnati. By that time, it was July, and I celebrated my birthday with good friends in Columbus, Ohio. Here’s a glimpse of the festivities:

Yummy cake batter-flavored martinis created by my friend Jonathan. And  my husband baked a yellow cake with homemade caramel icing. I know, you’re jealous!

Once my birthday was over, it was time to pack and head to beautiful Lily Dale, New York to teach some workshops. I never tire of walking the lovely grounds there, working for Spirit at the outdoor message services, and meeting new people to share ideas and experiences. If you are at all interested in metaphysics, you should definitely plan a trip to Lily Dale for a future summer holiday. Here are some photos that might capture your interest:

The welcoming gate sign at the entrance to Lily Dale.

The Lily Dale Auditorium, where many famous speakers and mediums have addressed crowds.

The lovely Healing Temple, a space filled with amazing peaceful healing vibrations.

A gorgeous view of the lake from the Lily Dale grounds.

One of the gorgeous Victorian homes on the grounds. Need a new place to live?

While in Lily Dale, I also got to meet up with one of my best buddies, my dear friend, fellow author Char Chaffin. Without Char, my novel Merlyn’s Raven would not have seen the light of day. Here we are together for breakfast:

Photo taken by Char’s wonderful husband, Don, who was good enough to share his wife with me that morning. 

My workshops were well-received, and I truly enjoyed my time at Lily Dale. Coming home just last week, I celebrated my 22nd wedding anniversary with my husband. And now I realize it’s time to get back in the swing of things here at home. Only a few more weeks of summer remain until my boys go back to school. Time moves so fast, and we are left with our jaws hanging open, saying, “When did that happen?”

I have quite a few more things on my plate this summer. I am offering a one-day Tarot class on Saturday, August 4 at my office. I am starting a 6-week Mediumship Development class for beginners on Wednesday, August 8. On Saturday, August 18, I will go to Camp Chesterfield in Indiana to teach a 3-hour workshop on Protection. Lexington, Kentucky is my last destination of the summer, when I travel to Patti Starr’s Mystical Paranormal Fair on Saturday, August 25 for a book signing and gallery-style message event. Details for all of these events are available at the websites tagged above or on my website’s events calendar. If you are in the neighborhood and so inclined, I hope you’ll join me for some summer fun.

So now, I’ve got to wrap up this blog. My boys are learning to drive this summer, and it’s time to leave for our dental check-ups. The Universe continues to bless me with plenty to keep me busy. I hope you find the blessings in your everyday life, too.

See you soon!

 

A Perfect Mother’s Day

So Mother’s Day is this Sunday. I am looking forward to continuing my family tradition of spending the day with my boys (my twin sons and their dad) seeing an action movie. This year’s choice: The Avengers.

A little eye candy never hurts.

My mom passed away in 2000. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her. She was a very special lady, and I miss her. I especially ache to share with her events from my boys’ lives that she’s missed since she’s been gone: all their school achievements, the funny and witty things they’ve done, the plays they’ve performed in and the artwork, stories, and movies they’ve created. As a Spiritualist, I believe she checks in on us, and I know she’s seen and experienced these things in whatever way that is possible from her place on the Other Side. Still, it would be nice to have her here in person.

Mom with my niece, Samantha, who is now 18.

I hope I’ve made my mother proud over the years. I’ve tried to be as good at mothering as she was. She wasn’t perfect, and neither am I. Still, I find myself thinking more and more about how she parented my brother and me, and I think we turned out pretty well. I ask her often to watch over my sons, to help them in their struggles, and to give me patience and understanding when I’m dealing with my dad. I know she sends energy to those ends, and I’m grateful.

So a perfect Mother’s Day might not be entirely possible for me, since my mom is no longer in the body, and I can’t hug her as I’d like to. But I know I’ll have a good Mother’s Day this Sunday because I get to spend it with my family, doing something that I know we’ll all enjoy.

My talented sons recently made a book trailer for my new novel, Merlyn’s Raven. I hope you’ll check it out. And if you’re so inclined, a copy of the e-book might make a nice gift for your mom. Or buy her a Kindle and load it up with some of your favorite titles. I highly recommend the book Mars Needs Moms by Berkeley Breathed. Do read the book–I hear the movie’s not nearly as wonderful.

I wish all mothers a bright and beautiful Mother’s Day celebration. May the loving bonds we share with our moms and our children continue to strengthen and enrich our lives.

Merlyn’s Magickal Mix Gift Basket

For those of you who might be so inclined, I have donated a gift basket to the Brenda Novak online auction for diabetes. The gift basket includes a free download of my new novel, Merlyn’s Raven, a CD of guided meditations narrated by me to help you relax and connect with Spirit, and a 6-month e-mail forecast reading. Please consider visiting and bidding to help support this worthy cause.

Sending you all thanks, love, and joy.

Friday Fun Post

Since next week I will start publicity in earnest for the release of my novel, Merlyn’s Raven, I thought I would post something completely superfluous and silly today. This is taken from a blog I love to read, just eat your cupcake, written by Maria.

Put your IPod on shuffle and then of course, each question gets a song.

Here we go.

1) Your first kiss:

Turning Tables, Adele.

The first kiss I remember was in fourth grade, when a kid named Tom used to chase me around the playground to try to kiss me. I let him catch me once. Does this count as turning tables?

2) First date:

Somebody to Love, Jefferson Airplane

I went to the park with my first boyfriend, and we walked around the lake. We also did some smooching under a bridge. I suppose I wanted somebody to love, all right, but frankly, I’m glad it didn’t turn out to be him.

3) First Day of Kindergarten:

Looks That Kill, Motley Crue

HA! This just makes me laugh. I don’t really remember my first day of kindergarten. I recall very little of that year, except that we had a bathroom in the kindergarten room and one day, my friend’s mom was our substitute teacher. But, knowing me and my nonstop chatter, I’m sure the kindergarten teacher gave me some looks that killed during our time together.

4) Relationship with parents:

I’m Counting on You, Chris DeBurgh

I’d say this is true of my parents. My mother was a wonderful lady and a good mom. My dad wasn’t around much, and when he was, he was scary when angered. Overall, though, I know my parents loved me, and I could count on them.

5) Relationship With Siblings:

Rehab, Amy Winehouse

What are you trying to say about my older brother here? He may be a perpetual partying twenty-year-old, but I love him.

6) First real love affair:

So. Central Rain, R.E.M.

My first real love affair is the one I’m still having. Since this song has a recurring line of “I’m sorry,” I really don’t think it’s appropriate for my relationship with my husband.

7) First Break-Up:

Bust Your Window, GLEE cast

Well, it wasn’t a very nice break-up. He just stopped calling me, and I never found out what happened. I also heard later from a friend who went to school with him that he was spreading rumors about me as a conquest, which really hacked me off. So yes, I suppose I was mad—but not mad enough to bust the windows of his car.

8) BFF song:

Toast, Tori Amos

This is a rather sad song, written for Tori’s brother who passed away, so it doesn’t seem appropriate for my best friend, Melissa. I did, however, raise a toast to her at her wedding, which I think went very well. And I meant every single sappy, sloppy word of it.

9) Partner song:

The Prisoner, Howard Jones

No, no, absolutely not. My husband and I treat each other with the utmost respect and love, and I know neither of us feels trapped in our relationship.

10) Your relationship with your child(ren): 

Moon Over Bourbon Street, Sting

Unless my children have turned into vampires and I don’t know about it, I can’t imagine a less appropriate song.

11) Song about fights with your partner/husband/wife/whomever:

I’m Slowly Turning Into You, The White Stripes

Hmmm…Well, my husband and I are both passive-aggressive fighters, I think, so we really do mirror each other in our fighting techniques. That said, we rarely fight. Maybe we have already turned into the other person—after twenty-seven years together, we know each other pretty damn well.

12) Song about your career:

Bulletproof Heart, My Chemical Romance

Interesting song title. I’d say that in my work as a medium and as a writer, I do have to have a pretty tough skin. People can be extremely critical, and you must learn that you can’t please everyone. And to be both a writer and a medium, you have to expose your heart and allow your emotions to flow, so having a bulletproof one is probably wise.

13) How you feel about your co-workers:

Witch Hunt, Rush

LOL! Well, I really only have one co-worker, my office partner, Joanne, who is also a medium and a life coach. I don’t know if she sometimes feels as if she’s the quarry in a witch hunt, but I do occasionally.

14) How you feel right now:

Almost Rosey, Tori Amos

I’d say that’s almost right, considering my name.

15) Family vacations when you were a kid:

Forget Me Not, The Civil Wars

I look back on family vacations to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina quite fondly. I hope I won’t forget those times.

16) First sexual experience:

Television Rules the Nation, Daft Punk

Um…no. Just…no. And you’re not getting any other explanation than that.

17) What’s your future look like?

Norwegian Wood (This Bird Has Flown), The Beatles

I’m not sure what to make of this answer. Perhaps I’ll fly to Norway. Perhaps it’s all about freedom. Or sleeping in a bathtub. Who really knows?

18) What your family was like growing up:

Winter, Tori Amos

Interesting. This is one of my favorite Tori songs, and it’s the one I associate most with my father. The song mentions, “I wanted you to be proud of me.” Those words, “I’m proud of you,” were ones I desperately wanted to hear from my dad but didn’t until I was in my thirties. And yes, that does make me sad.

19) What your own family is like now:

Someone Like You, Adele

Well, I do see my husband and myself in our children. And if anything ever happened to my husband, I would have to find someone very like him to even consider another relationship. Once you’ve had it so good, you never want to go backwards.

20) What will you be like in your old age:

Tear in Your Hand, Tori Amos

Oh, I hope not! I don’t want to be a big baby or a crier when I am old. I want to rejoice and remember all the great things about my life. I hope I can remain positive until my last breath, no matter what happens.

21) What your partner thought when you first met:

Die Hard the Hunter, Def Leppard

I don’t think my husband knew I was even interested in him when we first met. He actually considered asking out another girl who worked with us, until she was bitchy to him and he saw what she was really like. But I suppose I did pursue him a bit more than he pursued me.

22) What you thought when you first met your partner:

Miracle Drug, U2

Well, I certainly thought my husband was handsome the first time I saw him. But I don’t think I considered him a miracle drug.

23) What your child(ren) thinks of you as a parent:

Vertigo, U2

Never let them know what you’re really thinking. Make their heads spin! That’s my motto for good parenting!

24) What your co-workers think of you:

Hungry Like the Wolf, Duran Duran

Great. Everyone I work with thinks I eat too much. Does this blog make me look fat?

25) What your neighbors think of you:

Gone Away, The Offspring

LOL! This is probably very true. I hate to say it, but we’re not especially friendly with any of our neighbors. We wave and exchange pleasantries, but that’s about it. They probably think we’re very standoffish.

26) What your best friend thinks of you:

Bookends, Simon and Garfunkel

Awww….this makes me a little misty over Missy. 🙂  I could certainly see us sitting on a bench together as old ladies, cackling away. I hope she sees that, too.

27) What your family thinks of you:

I Am An Animal, Pete Townshend

Really? I never knew! And all this time, I thought I was being so loving and polite!

28) What your partner felt the first time you kissed:

White Russian, Marillion

Well, it was in my plan all along to make him drunk on my kisses. Looks like it worked.  🙂

The Powerful I AM

 

I am currently preparing for the publication of my first novel, Merlyn’s Raven, and I am doing a lot of online interviews that will go up around the time of that publication on April 17. Inevitably, in every interview, I start by answering the following prompt: “Tell us a little about yourself.” Often, my response starts with, “I am a wife, a mother…” etc., and I go on defining myself through these “I am” statements. This brought to my mind the topic for this post, which I also spoke about at my church, the USCL, yesterday.

I AM is a very bold statement. It is a statement of identity. When we proclaim I AM, it clearly defines us in a very specific way. When we use an I AM statement, we are declaring a truth about ourselves. “I am a wife.” “I am a mother.” “I am an accountant/truck driver/lawyer/counselor/soccer player” etc., whatever the case may be. We are confidently declaring to the world how we see ourselves and how we expect to be seen by others.

Interestingly, these I AM statements come directly from Creator. In Exodus 3:13, we read the following:

But Moses said to God, “If I come to the Israelites and say to them, ‘The God of your ancestors has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ what shall I say to them? God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM.” He said further, “Thus you shall say to the Israelites, “I AM has sent me to you.”

(The Harper Collins Study Bible)

In this passage, God goes on to tell Moses to call him THE LORD, which translates to the Hebrew letters YHWH, which we say as YAHWEH. This is connected to the Hebrew verb “hayah,” which means “to be.” What is God saying here? Many scholars believe He is commenting on His infinite nature, the fact that God is and always will be. He is commenting on the fact that everything is connected to God and has within it the essence of God, for in order for anything “to be,” it must have the essence of being, which is ultimately God. Whew. That’s very deep, isn’t it? Let’s come back to that concept in a moment.

When I was writing my book about Metatron, I included a section of channeled writings directly from the Archangel. When I did this through automatic writing, I went into an altered state and simply typed whatever Metatron channeled through me. I noticed something very interesting after I read these passages in my “normal” state: any time Metatron made an I am statement, he capitalized both words: I AM. He did this every time. I have no memory of this, but it was obviously important. When I asked Metatron about this, he said that he was affirming in a visual way his connection to Creator, the ultimate I AM, and that we should all recognize our inherent connection to Creator this way. By saying I AM, we are affirming our Divinity and opening a channel for God’s grace, wisdom, healing, and power to flow through us. In other words, we ourselves are God.

Wow!

That’s a very powerful and very profound thought, isn’t it? We ourselves are God. We ourselves are infinite and powerful. We ourselves are capable of anything and everything, just as God is capable of anything and everything.

I was thinking about this and how Jesus used this statement, too. In John 14: 4-10, we read the following:

“Thomas said to him, ‘Lord, we do not know where you are going. How can we know the way?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I AM the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, you will know my Father also. From now on you do know him and have seen him.’

Philip said to him, ‘Lord, show us the Father, and we shall be satisfied.’ Jesus said to him, ‘Have I been with you all this time, Philip, and you still do not know me? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, Show us the Father? Do you not believe that I AM in the Father and the Father is in me?’

Unlike some people, I don’t believe in this passage that Jesus is telling his disciples that he is the only way for people to connect with God. I believe he is using himself as an example of the fulfillment of the I AM energy, the great reflection of the God potential in us all. Jesus says boldly, I AM THE WAY. He is affirming that the way to God, to Infinite Intelligence, is within him, and he is reminding us that it is within all of us. Jesus holds himself up as an example and asks us to follow this example. He asks us to affirm to ourselves our I AM presence, our I AM divinity. He asks us to go within and nurture this divine essence, to honor it, and to allow it to lead us to higher spiritual truths and understandings. He reminds us that God is within us all by showing us how he and God are connected. As the great Master Teacher that he is, Jesus instructs us in how to deeply appreciate the connection within that God has gifted to every one of us.

So we come back to the concept of “being.” What are we being? When we use an I AM statement, we are affirming a reality. Can we not then use an I AM statement to create a new and better reality? I believe we can. I believe this is what affirmation statements are all about. I can’t say enough about the power of changing our thoughts into positive statements of intention. I believe this makes such a difference because we are directly tapping into divine energy every time we say I AM in an affirmation. And how can we not bring positive power to our intention if we are accessing the ultimate divine energy?

So today, I urge you to make a commitment to yourself. Promise yourself that you will access this divine energy every day in using personal affirmation, I AM statements. They can be whatever you want or need them to be, but make a point to state them out loud. This is prayer energy mixed with intention energy. This is direct access to our powerful God-source energy within. And this is what Creator tells us is possible for us. What are we waiting for? Let’s use this immensely powerful gift from God!

So try this for yourself. I have listed here some powerful I AM statements. If one doesn’t resonate for you, your Higher Self will know it, and it will not affirm that. That’s OK—use and affirm the statements that are right for you at this time. Or make up some of your own. But use the powerful I AM energy to create a new and better life for yourself.

I AM powerful.

I AM beautiful.

I AM Divine.

I AM strong.

I AM healthy.

I AM smart.

I AM peaceful.

I AM prosperous.

I AM creative.

I AM abundant.

I AM successful.

I AM happy.

I AM joyful.

I AM stress-free.

I AM loving.

I AM loved.

My place is the no-place

My image is without face


Neither of body nor the soul


I am of the Divine Whole.

                  –Rumi 116

 

Saying YES to the Universe

“I thank you God for this most amazing day, for the leaping greenly spirits of trees, and for the blue dream of sky and for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes.” — e.e. cummings

Many of you that read my work already know that I was a theatre major in college. I still participate in theatre shows when I can. (In fact, I will be in a production of Arthur Miller’s The Crucible in April and May of this year.) A very big part of theatre training consists of playing theatre games, and many of these are based on improvisational techniques. When an actor or actors make up lines, actions, and scenes as they go along, they are improving. In other words, there is no script to memorize or characters to embody. You fly by the seat of your pants and create the piece organically in the moment. If you’ve ever seen a television show like “Who’s Line is it Anyway?” or a stage show at a place like Second City in Chicago, these are fine, and usually very funny, examples of improvisation. A good actor has to understand how to improv because in a live production, you never know what’s going to happen. Sometimes improvising a line or doing something different can save a scene that has gone horribly wrong.

There are not a lot of rules when it comes to improvisation. But when I practiced improv every day in college, there was one rule that we, the actors, always had to follow. We had to play the Yes Game, as my teachers called it. You might be able to discern from the name of the rule what it meant. Playing the Yes Game required all of the actors to agree with whatever was going on onstage in a scene. For example, if I were doing a scene with another actor, and she came onstage and established that she had just fallen out of a window and injured her head, I couldn’t come onstage after her and ignore that choice or do something that negated it. I had to play into the situation without contradicting what she already established. So I might come onstage as a paramedic so that I could try to treat her injury. Or I might come on as a panicky pedestrian who doesn’t know what to do for her. Both of these choices say YES to the situation that my scene partner had already created. But I could not come onstage, examine her, and exclaim, “Oh my gosh! This woman is dead!” Doing this would negate what my partner had already set up, and it would ruin the energy of the scene. One of the most important things you must do onstage as an actor is trust your fellow actors. This trust is vital to building a scene, a play, a movie, or any kind of rapport. If I were to ruin the scene by not saying YES, I destroy the trust between the other actor and me, thus destroying the whole project.

So now you’ve learned a little something about theatre and improvisation. I was reminded of playing the Yes Game when I recently re-read the classic healing book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. This book has changed the lives of many, many people, myself included. In the book, Louise explores in great detail how our thoughts and our attitudes about ourselves create every situation and especially every health issue we encounter in our lives. Louise contends that by changing our thoughts, we can truly change our lives.

Now this is something that can’t be new information for most of you if you’re reading my blog. I realize that many of you believe in the power of positive thinking and understand the concept that thought creates reality. But even though we believe in this, many of us, myself included, have a hard time incorporating this into our lives every day. We have moments – and maybe longer periods of time than just moments – when we doubt, or we fall into patterns of negative thought. But one thing that Louise says in her book really caught my attention, and I wanted to share it with you today.

Louise writes that there are two mental patterns that contribute to dis-ease: fear and anger. Anger manifests as impatience, frustration, irritation, criticism, resentment, jealousy, and bitterness, thoughts that poison the body. Fear manifests as tension, anxiety, insecurity, doubt, worry, nervousness, feelings of inadequacy, or unworthiness. These also permeate the body and cause harm. And Louise says that we must learn to substitute faith for fear and anger if we are to heal.

“Faith in what?” she writes. “Faith in life. I believe we live in a YES Universe. No matter what we choose to believe or think, the Universe says YES to us. If we think poverty, the Universe says YES to that. If we think prosperity, the Universe says YES to that. So we want to think and believe that we have the right to be healthy, that health is natural to us. The Universe will support and say YES to this belief. Be a YES person, and know that you live in a YES world, being responded to by a YES Universe.”

So you see, Louise Hay is advocating playing the Yes Game in life, just like I used to play it in acting class. This Yes Game, though, is on a much bigger and more important scale. We are creating our own world by affirming to the Universe what we really want in it, and by affirming our divine nature and connection.

It’s important to realize that this is work, and it’s something we need to concentrate on and make a priority every day. We may also find that as we try to release a negative pattern in our lives, the whole situation may seem to get worse for a while. This is not a bad thing, and it is NOT a sign that we are going in the wrong direction. It IS a sign that the process is beginning to move! Our new affirmative thoughts are working, and we need to continue to concentrate energy upon them.

Let’s say, for instance, that you are working on expressing your creative talents, and you lose your job. This may seem like a very bad situation, but it may be that the problem is moving in a different direction to reveal different things you need to understand. Imagine that your affirmation has been, “I create opportunities in my life to use my creative talents and skills.” Guess what? The Universe just said YES to that affirmation and opened up a very big opportunity—you can create a whole new job for yourself! Instead of seeing this as a negative, find the positive in it and say YES to it! This may be challenging in itself, to see the positive in some of these types of situations. But you have the answers inside of you. As Louise also points out: the same Intelligence that created this YES Universe also created you and dwells inside of you as your own inner Intelligence. Access it.

How can we do that? Through meditation and contemplation. And by affirming for ourselves, every day, how beautiful and divine we truly are. We can say something like, “I release all the patterns of consciousness and action that have brought about this circumstance in my life.” And then we can affirm what we do want: “I easily embrace change with joy and peace.” “I easily attract the perfect mate into my life.” “I easily attract the best job to fit all my needs.”

I love the word YES. It sounds delicious, light, and happy. Let’s use it more often. Let’s say YES to the Universe and all it offers to us!

Namaste.

 

Someone Thinks I’m “Irresistibly Sweet!”

Yes, you read that title right. Someone does think so and has sent me a blog award to prove it! Here it is, in all its glory:

I have my dear friend and fellow novelist, the divine Char Chaffin, to thank for this honor. I have known Char for many years, and she is one of the most delightful people I’ve ever met. Be sure to check out her new book, Promises to Keep, available now!

Now, according to the award rules, I must do the following:

1. Thank and link to the person who nominated you.   Done. Thank you, dear Char! Big kiss!

2.  Share seven random facts about yourself.

Hmmm…OK. Let’s see if I can come up with some things you may not know about me.

A.  I have slept in the same bed with the aforementioned Char, and we barely knew each other. That probably sounds sordid, so maybe I should explain. 🙂 Char and I communicated in an online writing community, and we became good friends. That community organized a get-together in Atlantic City, New Jersey, and I was lucky enough to get to go. Char and I, along with two other girls, shared a hotel room one night. There were only 2 double beds, so we slept in one together. I think we got along famously.

B.  Right now, I have a huge load of laundry staring me in the face. Because I am a massage therapist and wash my own sheets, I often have laundry that either needs to be washed, dried, or folded. Having three men in the house doesn’t help, either.

C.  Today I have subsisted on peanut M & M’s and Coke Zero. Geez, sometimes it’s like I’m back in college again! I’m sure I will regret this later.

D.  I am making the prediction that Adele will clean up this year at the Grammy Awards. Yes, I’m a professional psychic, but I don’t think I need to tune in to get that one right.

E.  Ever since I was a child, my favorite number has been 11. Interesting that I learned much later in life that it’s connected to the Archangel Metatron, about whom I wrote a book.

F.  One of my biggest pet peeves is grocery cashiers who cannot pack bags correctly. How hard is it to put all the boxes together and all the cold stuff in one place, not to mention keeping the bread and the chips from getting smashed? Grrrrr.

G.  I have the best husband in the whole wide world. Argue all you want, but hey, I’m biased and won’t budge on this one.

OK. That’s 7 random facts. Have you really stuck around to read this?

3.  Pass the award on to 10 deserving blog buddies. 

Well, I am happy to pass the award on. Here are 10 blogs I love. I don’t know if they will be interested in continuing this passing-out-of-awards, but here they are just the same:

Material Girl

What I Wore 2 Day

Librarians Do It Between the Covers

Dynamic Dreamer by artist Lisa Hunt

At Brigid’s Forge by Lunaea Weatherstone

just eat your cupcake by Maria

Owl’s Wings–Beth Owl’s Daughter

Barbara Moore’s Llewellyn Tarot Blog

Author Casey Wyatt

And the Soul Mate Authors Blog, where I post every 4th Saturday of the month.

Whew! That’s a lot of award-giving! But all of these folks deserve it–their blogs are interesting, well-written, eclectic, and truly a lot of fun.

4. Contact those buddies and let them know. I’ll be sure to get on this right away, but please do stop by their blogs and tell ’em Rose sent you! 🙂

So there you go. I’m sweet. But you all knew that already, didn’t you?

 

 

Goodbye, Uncle George

My husband’s uncle George passed away this week. He was a good man who had a lovely family: a beautiful wife, Ruth; five sons; several grandchildren. He lived to the age of 93, an achievement all its own. The family resided in a small house in an older suburb of Cincinnati, and every year, George and Ruth had a Christmas party for everyone in the Van clan. The party was held in the unfinished basement of their home, with folding tables set up practically underneath the wooden stairs and the beer keg next to the washer and dryer. Once everyone arrived, it was pretty cramped, but you couldn’t have asked for a better time. The adults drank and ate and visited in the basement while the little ones played upstairs. Aunt Ruth brought down trays of dog food (a sausage mixture served on tiny bread slices and heated in the oven) to add to the feast while everyone admired cousin Dave’s leather pants. I daresay everyone looked forward to this party, a chance to visit with the family and catch up on each other’s lives.

I remember my first Christmas party at Uncle George’s clearly, even though I was only 17 or 18 at the time. As we drove there that night, Keith warned me that whenever someone brought a new boyfriend or girlfriend to the party, he or she had to know all the names of all the relatives by the end of the night. “There will be a test,” he said. I chuckled, thinking he was joking. How could there be a test? Did Uncle George and Aunt Ruth keep a Scantron somewhere?

When we arrived, Keith began introducing me to his family, and believe me, there were a lot of folks to remember. The cousin’s wife who liked photography. The cousin who was so tall and lanky, he reminded me of a cowboy. The uncle with the bad leg, and the cousin who used to dress Keith up in girls’ clothes when he was little. Their names, and all the others, spun around me like a flurry of snowflakes. I recited them in my head, hoping that the beer Uncle George had given me wouldn’t make my mind fuzzy. Keith quizzed me while we stood around the food table, but there wasn’t much time for practice. Too many people interrupted us, more names to add to the list.

Toward the end of the evening, Uncle George strolled over to me and took my hand. He led me to a metal kitchen chair set up in the center of the room and sat me in it. “Now,” he said, his eyes twinkling behind his glasses, “let’s see how many names you remember.”

I glanced around the circle of expectant faces surrounding me. I don’t get nervous in front of people very often, and that was true even in my younger days. But I was nervous then, and even though these folks smiled and teased in a good-natured way, I wanted to impress them. I knew I loved Keith, and I knew someday, this would be my family, too. I searched for Keith, drew some reassurance from his nod, wiped my sweaty palms on my pants, and started naming relatives.

I don’t remember how long it took, or how many I missed. Very few, if I recall correctly. I remember lots of laughing, and I remember Keith smiling proudly when I was finished. And then Uncle George came over to where I sat with a big grin on his face. He took my hand again, pulled me to my feet, and said, “Pretty good. You’re a keeper.”

Those words may not seem like much, but they meant the world to me. In that moment, I felt accepted and loved by the Van clan. And in that moment, Uncle George completely won my heart.

You’re a keeper, too, George. I know Bob and Helen will be so happy to welcome you to the Other Side, along with so many others who have gone before you. We’ll miss you. Thank you for so many happy Christmases and cherished memories.

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